Saturday, November 13, 2010

Choice meets Access meets Justice...thanks Tyler Perry


Say what you will about Tyler Perry's For Colored Girls, but you've got to admit that he knows how to tug a heart string. It was a mixed bag for me. I absolutely hated his trite down-low/HIV storyline. Homophobia at its finest. There was TONS of victim blaming. The strengthening bonds of sisterhood were poorly developed. Ultimately, there was very little to leave the movie feeling good about. One scene that I did appreciate was the abortion scene. Think back to If These Walls Could Talk and Demi Moore's character. Perry's film features a very similar plot, except the character is an inner-city high school student whose mother is extremely religious and completely broke. She can not admit to her mother that she's been sexually active, but she can't afford the 300 dollar abortion either. She begs her sister for the money, but tells her it's for college applications. Her older sister suspects that she's pregnant, and indirectly tells her about a woman who performs abortions in her apartment. The character goes to the woman alone to get an abortion, but ends up almost dying from an infection.

What does all this mean?

While certainly the fight for the right for a person to choose what happens to their own body is important, but economic access has to be part of the conversation. Not only that, but society's one-sided obsession with women's sexual purity needs to be deconstructed. CHOICE IS NOT ENOUGH. It must be about reproductive justice for all, not just those with the privilege to afford to choose.

What does your Feminism look like?

You may have noticed that Not Your Average Feminist looks a bit different. Well, I've been thinking about creating a blogging team! And I desperately need your help. I want to create a cohesive medley of diverse voices and experiences. Whether or not you have your own blog and you would like to cross post, or your brand spanking new to the Feminist blog-o-sphere, comment on this post if your interested in contributing!!!!!

Monday, November 8, 2010

Perception vs. Reality

So I just got back from one of the coolest retreats I've ever been to, so I'm sort of in a euphoria of Higher Education & Social Justice! I've been struggling with putting some of my thoughts to words lately about gender and sexuality, but I have to say being at NYU around people who are unapologetic about both queer theory and identity, I've finally been able to experience a wee bit of clarity.

Sexuality first:

When I first came out I identified as bisexual(7th grade), lesbian(freshman year of college), and now queer(junior year of college). The main reason I began identifying as queer is because...(get ready for a GRAND epiphany)...it simply felt right. I knew that there were other genders out there aside from "man" and "woman" and while I can say that my track record is mostly lesbian women, who's to say that I can never be with a person who identifies outside of the gender binary? Queer just fits for me!

And now gender:

Through my feminism, I learned that the constricting roles of manhood and womanhood are the root of a lot of injustices, violence, and inequalities in this world. And certainly people can continue to redefine womanhood as they see fit, and that is great, but for me I'd rather not. I want to interrupt "woman" For a while now I've identified as queer to acknowledge the fact that I'm attracted to people outside the binary, while ignoring that I was struggling with the fact that I myself had the same inclinations. I'm not talking about transitioning. I am who I am. I dress how I dress. I don't shave my legs. I sometimes let my mustache grow thick. I look how I look. I am a female-bodied person, and that's fine. But I don't feel like I'll ever be a "woman"...and I never really have. Genderqueer just feels right!

But still I struggled. Most genderqueer people I've met are more androgynous. And once again that's fine for them, but I will always be perceived as a woman. How can I call myself genderqueer if I don't look the part. Well, none of this came about because I didn't like the way I looked. It was always about how I felt and what I was expected to be. I identify as queer, yet almost everyone I meet thinks I'm straight...and this doesn't strike me as odd. This doesn't keep me from being queer. So why should I stop myself from identifying as genderqueer just because everyone I meet would classify me as a woman?

Sexuality is fluid. Gender is fluid. And so am I...

I may navigate this world and experience privilege as a cisgendered, heterosexual woman (because that's what I look like)...but I'm a queer genderqueer. Just thought you may want to know...

Monday, October 18, 2010

MY FIRST RADIO INTERVIEW...



I know it's super long, but you should definitely check it out when you have time!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

People UNITE!

I just wanted to let you all know about a really cool campaign that students from the Office of LGBT Student Services at NYU (where I am the new graduate assistant!) are launching. In response to the recent (recent only in the sense that the media finally gave the issue attention) queer-related suicides as well as the incredibly disturbing amount of queer-related violence, students at NYU decided it was time for real, tangible action. I started a very similar project during my undergrad at Ramapo College, but given the current climate for not only LGBTQ individuals, but all people in search of safe and affirming communities, now is the perfect time to truly unite! We love the "It Gets Better" project, but we want to take the responsibility of making change into our own hands. Even if you don't go to NYU, you can take this list and make it your own. Make it your profile picture and tag all of your friends! As you begin to accomplish all the different tasks, visit our blog page at NYUnited4Love.tumblr.com and send us pictures and reflections. Let us know if you made a difference in your community!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

MAKE IT BETTER!!!!!

I'm sure by now that most of you have heard about the "It Gets Better" campaign as a response to the string of queer-related suicides, and I love the idea!!! However, I've been wondering if the celebrity-based message is going to ring true or realistic to everyone out there who really needs help. So here are a few facebook initiatives that I think will make a very visible impact, and hopefully spread word about actual resources out there!

Try changing your profile picture to this:


This only helps if you add the following caption:

Please change your profile picture in memory of Tyler Clementi, Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Justin Aaberg, Raymond Chase, Billy Lucas as well as all of those we have lost. Help us to stop the suffering and prevent the loss of more beautiful young people by pledging to speak out against bullying and remind everyone that: You are LOVED!
More information/resources:
http://chalkmessages.org/ & Trevor Lifeline: 1-866-488-7386
MAKE SURE YOU ADD THIS CAPTION!!!!!

And then tag all of your friends!

In addition to this, you can also participate by wearing purple on October 20th, which has been deemed Spirit Day. There are several event pages that have been made on facebook which combined have garnered over 150,000 participants. Hopefully your efforts will strike up a dialogue that will shed light on issues of bullying and bigotry.

Click here, here, and here for the event pages!

And yes I realize that not everyone is on facebook, but I think it's currently the best way to spread a message to a vast amount of youth. So spread the word, participate, and remember to speak up when you see bullying going on!!!!

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Hatred is Institutional...

How can we expect to fix bullying between students if major institutions are rampant with hatred:



Visit the Human Rights Campaign to take action!

Thursday, September 30, 2010

"You-Are-Loved" Candlelight Vigil





Hosted by NYU LGBT clubs and organizations as well as Delta Lambda Phi

Within the past two weeks, FIVE young men between the ages of 13 and 18 have committed suicide as a result of homophobic bullying.

Students at NYU are asking that we all come together as a collective community to remember these young men as well as all of those we have lost due to hatred and bigotry.

It's time to mobilize. The vigil will start at 9:00pm in Washington Square Park underneath the arch. Please bring your own candle if you are able as there will be a limited amount available. The event will culminate in a chalking session in honor of the 2nd annual "You-Are-Loved Chalk Messaging Project." This project is meant to provide uplifting messages as well as shed light on the amount of bullying, harassment, self-injury, and suicidal thoughts that disproportionately affect queer youth.

We need your help to get the word out! Send this group to your ENTIRE friend list. Let's show all the silenced queer youth that there ARE those out there that will accept them for who they are. No one should ever be made to feel alone in this world. We realize this is short notice, but we must act before one more precious life is lost.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Dear Coulter...you're an idiot...

Ann Coulter spoke at Homocon, a convention for gay conservative GOP supporters, and thought it would be a great idea to say the following:

(marriage) "is not a civil right — you're not black,"

"as soon as they find the gay gene, you know who's getting aborted."

There are a few sad things about all of this. Number 1: why the fuck would any gay person want to hear this woman speak after she called numerous people fagots. Number 2: Although I hope they never find the mythical gay gene, what she says could, sadly, actually happen. Number 3: So are there no gay black men? Or were there just no gay black men in the room? I'd bet that her audiences generally tend to not have very many people of color in them...

I saw her speak once. She opened with two jokes:

"Hello, I'm Ann Coulter, press 1 for English."
"So as you all know Obama is our first black president. And with the way things are going, he'll certainly be the last..."

It was terrifying. People laughed at these "jokes." People actually believe in what this woman is saying, although I did take comfort in the fact that the audience was mostly 50+. A lot of the Tea Party members also fit this bill, but their popularity is growing everyday. Take Christine O'donnell for instance who recently beat a Republican candidate and who believes that masturbation should be made illegal. REALLY? So what's the conclusion to all this? YOU NEED TO VOTE IF YOU DON'T WANT NUT JOBS TAKING OVER THE COUNTRY.